The misconceptions of dating...... "Where did the love go"

Do you ever get irritated with the dating? I do. What ever happened to the guy that would ask, "Say if you're not busy Saturday, can I take you out?" What happened? Guys gotta improve their game and understand, that there are still a few of us ladies who like that kinda stuff! If I meet one more grown 40 something year old man tryna run game I'ma scream! First of all, understand this, I know that when a man first meet or encounter a female, he already knows whether he will approach her or not, and what his purpose for approaching her if he decides to approach her. So why, bother with the preliminaries of all that rig-a-morrore  and rhetoric in the initial encounter. Brothas, just be strait up with us sistas, and be truthful about your intentions, okay. Kill this thought now that every woman is a hoer or a gold digger, and every woman carries 99 bags of issues on our shoulders these are just the ones you pick, and if I hear one more time about how career woman have all these high standards, I'ma scream! When we depart from these stereotypes about each other, we as a black race of men and women.... NO WE as men and women.... we gone be alright. Sistas, not every man is a dog out to get what he can get, and brothas its some really good sistas out there ready and willing to love you if you were to dare use your heart to feel and find her. But, we need to get past the BS and the games. Many of us aren't getting any younger, lol, and a whole bunch of us are already old. I was created for your pleasures bru, but as your woman and wife, not just your woman. People we need to pull it together, cause I'm ready for love in its purest and realest form, I'm ready to settle down and be Mrs. SOMEBODY! But if we don't change the way we view ourselves.......~sigh~

I asked a brotha what was his opinion on the 42+% of African American women being single, was it our fault or what? He boldly stated that MEN were the reason. I was like HUH? shocked that he said that, he explained that, its not that women's standards where high or any of the other rhetorical crap but men just aren't ready for what women are ready for, because men feel that the more women you have the more of a man you are. He explained that we as woman we think marriage, men they think FUN. Men are sexual creatures, woman are emotional creatures. Add this to our own misconceptions about one another, dating and marriage and you get what we now have, a mess and 42+% Black women single. This is so much deeper or at least I could get deeper, but I want.... not right now anyway. But I hope those of you who find yourself reading this, will stop and think about yourself, your love, your desires to be loved and what you are willing to put into a relationship in order to get out of what you want.